I am morbidly obese. I have tried losing weight for over 20 years, and the doctors just say “eat less, excercise more”. I’m 43 that has occured to me, thanks. No matter how hard I work at it, I lose 20 lbs, and then start gaining it back even if nothing has changed. Or even if I reduce my calorie intake again. Or increase my exercise. Its too the point that whenever I look in the mirror I just see a ft cw of a person. I never really learned to do makeup when I was younger, and Idk how to really learn now. Ive been told by friends to just watch some YouTube videos & experiment. When I do, I just see a ft cw with make-up on. Somethings are okay look wise, somethings are, “Oh dear, that’s a no”, but nothing is ever, “hey, I like this”. How do I figure out something that works for me?
(And yes, I know I need therepy- working on it- just trying to work on things I can control right now.).
In the last ten years I went from being an athletic in shape person to being morbidly obese and now am back on my down again. I struggled to feel anything positive about t my appearance when I was at my heaviest so I hear where you’re coming from. I started to feel it was a waste of money to try and dress nice or get my hair cut and coloured or wear makeup etc because I was still ugly anyway. Well, actually that’s about the worst thing you can do in that state. I always looked at other big women who were just beautiful and confident and wished I could be one of them somehow. Then i started to notice, these women still wore fashionable clothes, they still spent money on themselves for hair and makeup and nails etc. it’s a form a self care! And when you care for yourself just a tiny bit, you start to allow yourself to say, well that does look good. I got a new power job at one point it was at my heaviest, I was over 300 lbs, but I went and spent like 500$ on a new wardrobe for work and I got my hair cut and coloured. I also got my eyebrows micro bladed. I honestly felt so great, and everyone around me was complimenting all the time. It’s a game changer for your self esteem to not neglect your appearance ! So what you’re not a supermodel, you can still try to look your best, right? And it was at that point I started to actually lose some weight successfully too.