I am morbidly obese. I have tried losing weight for over 20 years, and the doctors just say “eat less, excercise more”. I’m 43 that has occured to me, thanks. No matter how hard I work at it, I lose 20 lbs, and then start gaining it back even if nothing has changed. Or even if I reduce my calorie intake again. Or increase my exercise. Its too the point that whenever I look in the mirror I just see a ft cw of a person. I never really learned to do makeup when I was younger, and Idk how to really learn now. Ive been told by friends to just watch some YouTube videos & experiment. When I do, I just see a ft cw with make-up on. Somethings are okay look wise, somethings are, “Oh dear, that’s a no”, but nothing is ever, “hey, I like this”. How do I figure out something that works for me?

(And yes, I know I need therepy- working on it- just trying to work on things I can control right now.).

  • meltingrubberducks@alien.topB
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    2 years ago

    Just remember when you’re doing nails hair or makeup it can be fun make you feel good and you aren’t eating at that time so that’s already the right track if you are a bored binger (not sayin you are but it helps me to remember this). In this way self care things like this can prob help the weight journey and let you explore yourself in the process. I would check out no makeup makeups I love mauve brownish rosey matte lips layered onto a good chapstick and then a bit of blush and my eyelashes curled. Pencil in my brows or a pop of a light highlight and I feel glowy and good to go. If the makeup stands out to you or makes you feel anxious like it’s not complimenting your features do it a different way. I feel like the harsh contours( Kim k &Heroin chic) often look worse on fatter faces. But a nice lip color or a creamy looking eye look with hints of minimal pink or gold just make anyone look good. Plenty of bigger ladies rock makeup and you shouldn’t let anything about your body hold you back from your hobby. Also I feel like when things are super noticeable to us they aren’t to other people. I had a manager who was really obese and her makeup always looked flawless and excellent. No one ever thought she looked bad. People didn’t really mention her weight at all but we did talk about how nice she always dresses , her nails, jewelry hair and make-up. Most people aren’t looking at your weight so don’t let it stress you from expressing yourself