I am morbidly obese. I have tried losing weight for over 20 years, and the doctors just say “eat less, excercise more”. I’m 43 that has occured to me, thanks. No matter how hard I work at it, I lose 20 lbs, and then start gaining it back even if nothing has changed. Or even if I reduce my calorie intake again. Or increase my exercise. Its too the point that whenever I look in the mirror I just see a ft cw of a person. I never really learned to do makeup when I was younger, and Idk how to really learn now. Ive been told by friends to just watch some YouTube videos & experiment. When I do, I just see a ft cw with make-up on. Somethings are okay look wise, somethings are, “Oh dear, that’s a no”, but nothing is ever, “hey, I like this”. How do I figure out something that works for me?
(And yes, I know I need therepy- working on it- just trying to work on things I can control right now.).
My love, I am a massive fatty and have been my whole life. I’ve done every diet, lost (and gained) hundreds of pounds in weight. No matter how low the number on the scale, I never felt pretty or worthy or good enough.
Makeup wasn’t the issue.
When I accepted that I was going to be fat for the duration, my life changed. I decided I was going to do it fat- whatever ‘it’ was, I was going to make myself do it.
My world is so much bigger and better now. Things aren’t perfect, but I very rarely think about my weight any more.
Your worth as a human being is not defined by the number on the scale or the size label in your clothes. You are precious and valuable exactly as you are.