I’m pretty pale myself and I’ve also found many to be a bit too pink. I like L’Oreal true match line because you can actually pick cool, warm, or neutral. I find that the soft ivory N1 is enough to cancel out most of the slight redness around my nose and mouth and it blends in really well. I don’t have to worry about my neck not matching my face 🤣 I believe they even have a shade or two lighter than soft ivory.
I also use loose powder mineral makeup that has a similar concept. Everyday Minerals. You can order super cheap samples from them. I usually get a neutral and a warm and mix them together as the neutral is a bit too white for me alone.
It sounds like your eye is watering/tearing and you’re maybe not noticing it while it’s happening.